There’s a waffle commercial that says “Leggo my EGO,” right? Well, that’s how they meant to spell it. PS they make those waffles with blueberries now. Blueberries rock. Quit talking about waffles, you’re making me hungry. This article is about our egos—not food. Now, I want to be very clear on what I mean by “ego.” Many times we will see someone who can barely fit their ego in the door. Most often, these people are born under the sign of Leo and seem to think the world revolves around them. However, that kind of ego is not one born of confidence (and the self-love we spoke of earlier). This is the kind of ego that tends to get you into trouble. Naughty Leo bear.

The part that can get really confusing is that when people walk around with inflated egos, it usually is a BIG sign of low self-esteem. It’s kind of like a guy in a really cold swimming pool, all tiny and shriveled up. This is not the kind of ego you want, because, ew, wrinkly. The kind of ego you want (and only if we can’t have blueberry) is the kind that is born of genuine, home-grown self-esteem. So, how can you tell if you have genuine self-esteem, as opposed to say, the kind made in Taiwan? Well, funny you asked, because I just happened to have a handy dandy list right….here….um…under my cat. Okay, here we go, and PS just kidding about the Leo thing. Mama loves her some Lion. Roar.

Signs of Healthy Self Esteem:

When you catch your reflection in the mirror, you wink at yourself.

Signs of Ego-Centric:

When you catch your reflection in the mirror, you ask everyone around you if they see it too, and do you look fat in those pants.

Signs of Healthy Self Esteem:

When a colleague has a big win, you celebrate and help him get drunk.

Signs of Ego-Centric:

When a colleague has a big win, you set up an anonymous twitter account and tell everyone he cheated to win.

Signs of Healthy Self Esteem:

When people are bragging about themselves, you nod and agree.

Signs of Ego-Centric:

When people are bragging about themselves, you pull the fire alarm and shout, “We’re all gonna die,” while running to the nearest exit.

Signs of Healthy Self Esteem:

When the world is ending, you hold yourself over others to protect the helpless.

Signs of Ego-Centric:

When the world is ending, you hide behind anyone you can find to protect your hair.

Signs of Healthy Self Esteem:

When someone offers you constructive criticism, you thank them and give their comments serious consideration.

Signs of Ego-Centric:

When someone offers you constructive criticism, you thank them, and  set their car on fire.

Obviously this is not a complete list, but it gives us a starting point in understanding the difference in a healthy ego and a shriveled up, insecure ego. Healthy Egos, Happy People— unhealthy egos, unhappy people who will cut in front of you in the 10 Items or Less lane every time. Don’t be a line cutter. Oh, and send blueberry waffles soon.

 

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